Michelle's POZ Blog

mutual friend hi it is me you did the right thing . now let god do the reast. the path he is on is for him we can not get in the whay of life lesens .it will work out for the best your mutual friend

Mutual Friend--

Yes, I know all that but it just burns me up that it was so easy for him to look me in the face not once but three times and lie to me. I know you and I have discussed this in detail but it doesn't mean I have to like it. He needs to come get his stuff. If he he wants to let his life to go to hell once again, it's his choice but when the shit hits the fan again, I won't be around to help. He made his choice now he has to live with it.

Hey Michelle, Are you in love with that boyfreind of yours? It sounds like maybe you need a change and start taking care of your needs. If you want a change, I'm single and into any type of relationship you wish. My add is on POZ under cobalt007 or Passionate and muscular. You're very pretty, you deserve better.
Dave

Michelle -

From a Psychology standpoint, an addicts personality and character is modified by the drug addiction. It's also shown that an addict does not recover from this "haze" for atleast 5 years after giving the drug up. So in essence drugs act as a parasite that control one's actions and can make the most rational of individuals to act in a completly irrational manner. That being said I wouldn't take any lying, stealing, or whatever else infraction he has commited ...personally. I would also watch what kind of help you offer, a it may in fcat be an enabling situatuion which of course will make his potential recovery that much more impossible to acheive. The old adage "One cannot help those who do not help themselves" certainly wil always ring true. You'll just have to wait for him to hit rock bottom. Then let a profesional intervene.

Again, it's best not to take it personally

"Hey Michelle, Are you in love with that boyfreind of yours? It sounds like maybe you need a change and start taking care of your needs. If you want a change, I'm single and into any type of relationship you wish. My add is on POZ under cobalt007 or Passionate and muscular. You're very pretty, you deserve better.
Dave"

Ahem, he is into any type of relationship you want... I can hear the song, "Love is in the air" as I type this. Forgot what I wanted to say, but I think it was important!

Dave---Thanks for the compliment..I take it you and Skeebo are friends since he seems to be giving you props and singing love is in the air...*LOL* The person I am speaking on is not my bf, he is gay, he is simply a friend or should I say was.

I have been trying to look out for my needs when it comes to men but I seem to keep running into the wrong ones...*hush Just Me, LOL* Every time I try to give the benefit of the doubt or whatever, I just keep getting disappointed. It gets kind of frustrating.

Just Me---

Interesting point you make, maybe you can explain something to me. After having a text convo with said friend, I am now being blamed for his addiction and being told that I am hating on him because I guess, because he has been with his bf for 10 years. Now that doesn't make any sense to me, how can I hate on someone who went from sugar to shit and really don't have a pot to piss in much less a window to throw it out of?

After being told everything is my fault, which I think the bf was present during said text convo because the comments reek of him. He is known for shifting the blame and I guess that is something my ex-bff picked up from him. It's kind of hard not to take it personal.

Michelle,

From my understanding, and I've never been addicted to anything but altoids, a result of addiction is a loss of the feeling of control. If you can't control your own life, how does one control outside forces? That being said, the feeling of weakness, and loss of power causes a projection of blame. Think about it..it's not his fault he's homeless, broke, and an addict....he has no control over his life, so who's fault can it be? It's the peron(s) that won't enable his addiction. You became that latest person. He is a weak human being, and that weakness is why he's so easily controled by his manipulative boyfriend. For you to help him, he would need a restraining order, intervention, and a long rehabilitation stay. It's absolutely nothing you could handle without the help of a small army of his familly and friends. His lying, and now his blaming you should not be taken personally at all. It's a feeble attempt at lashing out.

Breathe....you could use less stress, taking on more is bad for your mojo.....and I'm considering bringing homegirl back into the mainstream.