Michelle's POZ Blog

Since taking in my gay bff, I knew it was coming--- the games by his ex, trying to use any means to mind fuck my friend. I had to even go off on our mutual friend for taking my bff to the hospital to see his ex. I went off on my bff as well. Don't get me wrong, I am a compassionate person and I even feel sorry for the ex but I know the games he plays. When my bff left him one time before and went to stay somewhere else, the ex used me to find out if my bff was at this place. At the time, my bff was but he was so scared to know the ex was with me that I lied and told the ex he wasn't there to protect my friend. That's why when all this started, I was surprised to know that my bff had even gone back to him.

Fast forward to over the weekend. The ex had been in the hospital. He literally got up and left without the hospital knowing at first. The story is he left to go to his trailer because the landlord had let the dogs run out of the yard. It has been said that the trailer was full of feces from the dogs being kept inside and neglected while my bff and his ex were getting high. I don't believe that the ex went to the trailer to get the dogs as he claims. He has sisters with cars, they could've done that for him, I believe he went there to get high. And when he was done, he went back to the hospital which amazed me because I thought when a patient leaves a hospital, it is considered to be A.M.A ( Against Medical Advice) and I figured the hospital wouldn't take him back for insurance reasons. They took him back.

Sunday, we had to endure the ex blowing up the house phone. He was calling just about every thirty minutes. I have caller id so we just let the phone ring. I called my mutual friend who in turn called the ex to told him to stop calling and he had but I knew it wasn't going to be over just like that. And I was right, this morning he called my other room mate's phone, waking her up asking her to put my bff on the phone. She told him no, that we have a rule in the house, which we do, if someone is sleeping, we do not disturb them, we let them sleep. His excuse for wanting to talk to my bff this time was because he wanted the keys to the trailer. Yeah, right. He was just at the trailer for one, so why did he need keys? And if my bff had a set, the ex's sister had them when she came and got the dogs. Remember that was his reason for leaving the hospital in the first place. I recognized the game for what it was. Now I am just waiting to see what his next move is going to be.

For the time being, I am not worried about him showing up on our doorstep because his health is not good at the moment and his car is not working. But even if everything was ok in that regard, I just don't think he would be stupid enough to show up here trying to show his ass. Then in the back of my mind, I am thinking never say never and I have thought out things should that scenario become a reality. Should it become a reality, he will only be given one chance to walk away. I just hope he makes the right decision for his sake not ours.